*grump*
.. I hate people.
I particularly hate people who cannot bear to lose. Okay, so we all have our offdays.
Whoopie.
I have to bitch about something, so bear with me - this shouldn't take long.
.. is it just me, or is the standard responce to being questioned to pitch a fit and say nasty things to the questioner? Or is this just some people who can't possibly ever be wrong?
I mean, okay - maybe you don't /want/ to answer that question right then - but why then can't you just SAY that? Why threaten a person, call them names and generally be nasty to them?
I don't get this.
Now, I admit, I don't always like to be questioned myself - but I usually don't fall to threats, name-calling or nastiness. If I don't care to answer, I say so - degree of politeness depending on how many times the same question has been asked with the same responce. Sharp answers are not my first resort, though. ( ... well.. okay, if you have the misfortune to be the fifth person to ask the same question, you're likely to be growled at if I thought you were around to hear the answer the first four times...)
So I don't really understand people who resort to that sort of thing right off the bat.
I particularly don't understand it in the context of online RPGs. Now, some of you might know what I'm talking about - having been witness to the altercation I'm bitching about. Some of you might even have been there, on one side or the other.
For the record - I do not care. If you don't want to know what I think, don't read this.
I run games. I tend to run them in tandem with my husband, with him handling the mechanics and me handling (most of) the story. If my players ask me a question, out of character, about something they might bump into later, they can usually expect a reasonable answer. If it's something their character might know, they can usually expect a reasonable answer about THAT, too - particularly if they can give me a logical reason their character would know it.
If not, I just tell them it is - for the moment - need to know info and I'll keep them updated as soon as it becomes necessary for them to know. Quietly, politely - without threatening anyone or getting nasty. That's been pretty much standard for all of the good games I've been in. All of 'em - the best refs I've ever played with treat their players with respect. No "I am GOD and you WILL obey", no attitude, no bullshitting and no stupid, illogical reasons for their decisions. If one has a question about something, they have a good answer.
Now - Andi and I haven't been running games together for all that long. But we try to do that too. Be there, with useful answers for our players, be polite and helpful and generally willing to give them enough rope to either hang themselves with, or pull themselves out of whatever deep pit they've fallen into.
To us, at least - as well as every one of the refs I've played with who put fun and the game first - threatening the players and being nasty to them generally results in no game.
This person does not appear to understand that. Maybe things are different where s/he is. Maybe hir standards are different, or s/he played in games where that wasn't the case.
Either way, I wish s/he would either take a hint - I'm not the only one who's complained - or hurry up and hang hirself....
While I feel sorry for hir, I won't miss hir.
I don't much like being insulted or threatened, but it must be damn lonely up there on that pedestal ....
...
Okay. I feel better now. ^^
Good enough to talk about food.
What I eat - or more like, /don't/ eat.
I practically live on tea - black tea, with cream and a little sugar. Not the healthiest thing, I know. ^^
Today though, I had cheese tortillas for lunch, and we had chicken di'jon, with lightly steamed cauliflower (with cheese sauce!) and rice (Brown, cooked with saffron and garlic and a few other things in chicken broth.).
Chicken di'jon is basically chicken breasts devided and dipped in di'jon (and a little mayo), breaded (parmesan, Old Bay, thyme, granulated garlic and some fresh-ground pepper) and baked in a hot oven. Normally, I'd do fresh buttermilk biscuits with it, but I only have two ovens to work with ...
.. I think I also had a cadbury creme egg too, and a couple of cocoanut macaroons..
.. Don't /what/!?
I particularly hate people who cannot bear to lose. Okay, so we all have our offdays.
Whoopie.
I have to bitch about something, so bear with me - this shouldn't take long.
.. is it just me, or is the standard responce to being questioned to pitch a fit and say nasty things to the questioner? Or is this just some people who can't possibly ever be wrong?
I mean, okay - maybe you don't /want/ to answer that question right then - but why then can't you just SAY that? Why threaten a person, call them names and generally be nasty to them?
I don't get this.
Now, I admit, I don't always like to be questioned myself - but I usually don't fall to threats, name-calling or nastiness. If I don't care to answer, I say so - degree of politeness depending on how many times the same question has been asked with the same responce. Sharp answers are not my first resort, though. ( ... well.. okay, if you have the misfortune to be the fifth person to ask the same question, you're likely to be growled at if I thought you were around to hear the answer the first four times...)
So I don't really understand people who resort to that sort of thing right off the bat.
I particularly don't understand it in the context of online RPGs. Now, some of you might know what I'm talking about - having been witness to the altercation I'm bitching about. Some of you might even have been there, on one side or the other.
For the record - I do not care. If you don't want to know what I think, don't read this.
I run games. I tend to run them in tandem with my husband, with him handling the mechanics and me handling (most of) the story. If my players ask me a question, out of character, about something they might bump into later, they can usually expect a reasonable answer. If it's something their character might know, they can usually expect a reasonable answer about THAT, too - particularly if they can give me a logical reason their character would know it.
If not, I just tell them it is - for the moment - need to know info and I'll keep them updated as soon as it becomes necessary for them to know. Quietly, politely - without threatening anyone or getting nasty. That's been pretty much standard for all of the good games I've been in. All of 'em - the best refs I've ever played with treat their players with respect. No "I am GOD and you WILL obey", no attitude, no bullshitting and no stupid, illogical reasons for their decisions. If one has a question about something, they have a good answer.
Now - Andi and I haven't been running games together for all that long. But we try to do that too. Be there, with useful answers for our players, be polite and helpful and generally willing to give them enough rope to either hang themselves with, or pull themselves out of whatever deep pit they've fallen into.
To us, at least - as well as every one of the refs I've played with who put fun and the game first - threatening the players and being nasty to them generally results in no game.
This person does not appear to understand that. Maybe things are different where s/he is. Maybe hir standards are different, or s/he played in games where that wasn't the case.
Either way, I wish s/he would either take a hint - I'm not the only one who's complained - or hurry up and hang hirself....
While I feel sorry for hir, I won't miss hir.
I don't much like being insulted or threatened, but it must be damn lonely up there on that pedestal ....
...
Okay. I feel better now. ^^
Good enough to talk about food.
What I eat - or more like, /don't/ eat.
I practically live on tea - black tea, with cream and a little sugar. Not the healthiest thing, I know. ^^
Today though, I had cheese tortillas for lunch, and we had chicken di'jon, with lightly steamed cauliflower (with cheese sauce!) and rice (Brown, cooked with saffron and garlic and a few other things in chicken broth.).
Chicken di'jon is basically chicken breasts devided and dipped in di'jon (and a little mayo), breaded (parmesan, Old Bay, thyme, granulated garlic and some fresh-ground pepper) and baked in a hot oven. Normally, I'd do fresh buttermilk biscuits with it, but I only have two ovens to work with ...
.. I think I also had a cadbury creme egg too, and a couple of cocoanut macaroons..
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